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One Sunday afternoon…Leigh made us laugh!



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He noticed that we were aiming the cam to him…

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Oppss…maybe he was tired…

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Smells bad?

Hahaha…we were wrong! We thought he was trying to reach my beauty stuffs but he was actually releasing his stuff !


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Some young children terrify their parents when they stop breathing in response to pain or anger. They start to cry, turn blue, stop breathing, and go limp.

This is what my Leigh did a day before our departure to Kuala Lumpur. I just prevented him from climbing to the chair, and then he cried, turned blue, hold his breath and when I carried him he was too weak. He always cries and holds his breath whenever he doesn’t get what he wants. But the last one was worst I was terrified.

It’s understandable that a breath-holding spell is terrifying to a parent who watches their child become limp and lifeless, but it is of no consequence to the child.

No consequences for him because after that incident, he did sleep and when he woke up as if nothing had happened. Gosh…He even did not know the effect on me…I shouted and asked for helped, I even thought I would lose my son.

A breath-holding spell occurs because of involuntary cessation of breathing which can actually lead to unconsciousness and even seizures because of lack of oxygen in the brain. Despite these troubling symptoms, there are no long term effects of breath-holding spells.

Why would a child stop breathing? Why such a drastic, seemingly dangerous event?

Breath-holding occurs in response to a painful or frustrating stimulus. They are rare before 6 months of age, peak at about age two, and are usually a thing of the past by age 5. They occur with equal frequency in males and females and there is a family history of breath-holding spells in about 25% of cases.

There are actually two types of breath-holding spells. The much more common cyanotic spell starts when a young child, either angry or frustrated, bursts out crying. The cry leads to the involuntary holding of breath during expiration (breathing-out phase). This leads to cyanosis — the child turns blue — and may become limp and unresponsive.

Doctors confronted with a frightened parent with this story have two tasks: 1)Make the correct diagnosis, 2) Help the parents manage the spells until the child grows out of this unusual response to the strong emotions that all of us have every day. I am convinced that not a day goes by without each of us experiencing both anger and frustration.

Breath-holding spells must be distinguished from seizures because the latter need treatment while the former do not. In a breath-holding spell there is always a PRECIPITATING FACTOR. The crying and cyanosis always PRECEDE THE UNCONSCIOUSNESS or limpness.

In a severe breath-holding spell the child may have twitching, arching of the back, or even seizure-like movements. In a seizure, cyanosis occurs not at the beginning but after prolonged seizing.

Management is divided into two parts: information for parents and management strategies. Parents are scared out of their wits. It takes good doctoring to explain the sequence of events and the physiology that lead to the spells and to convince the parents BREATH-HOLDING SPELLS ARE BENIGN — although very frightening. Parents are thinking death, epilepsy, and brain damage but the doctor must teach them to think “benign.”

Parents need to know four things about management of breath-holding spells.

  1. Quickly apply a cold cloth to the face. If such an intense stimulus is applied to the face in the first 15 seconds of the breath-holding this may terminate the spell. Usually by the time the parent realizes the child is having a spell, rushes to get the cloth, and gets back to the child’s face, the critical window of time has passed. But at least applying the cloth gives the parent something to do. It won’t do any harm and it’s very hard to stand by and watch when your child isn’t breathing.
  2. Put the child on the floor or in the crib to prevent injury from falling during unconsciousness.
  3. DON’T FUSS OVER THE CHILD when the spell is over. The most dangerous possible consequence of breath-holding is behavioral. The child realizes that screaming leads to a spell. The spell causes the parents to give the child lots of attention plus whatever the child wanted in the first place. The child now has a way to get his or her way.
  4. PREVENT the spells. Parents cannot prevent frustration or anger from happening but they can minimize these precipitating emotions in two ways. Allow the toddler maximum autonomy to make choices whenever possible and whenever consequences of these choices are inconsequential. Avoid those frustration-enhancing factors like fatigue and hunger which always make things worse. And set limits that are firm and consistent so the child can practice coping with frustration the same way an older child practices scales on the piano. After a while you get it right.

Think of breath-holding as an extreme kind of tantrumming. Parental attention leads to secondary gain which in turn leads to more episodes in response to frustration. This is one of those times when the best thing a parent can do is nothing.

After knowing this info, I was relieved. I got this from the net, parenting tips from a doctor…(sorry but I forgot her name and her site…but I will try to recall and link the site in this post).

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“Expecto Patronum”

It was dark, the people around were silent and were very much focused on the big screen. Only flashing lights from Exit signs can be seen. Two kids were silently observing their new environment.   

“Expecto Patronum” 

Yes, yes yes! After three years we broke the ice…we watched Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix…movie debut for Liz and Leigh. 

What do you expect for kids with such age inside the movie house?  

Of course, we’ve been ready for whatever will happen. We went there at 2 pm, the usual afternoon nap for the two.  

Next, chose the upper portion and near the lobby for in case Leigh will get bored and wanted to do his stunts and babble his “piti piti pata pata”.  But we are glad they just observed and kept quiet.  

Thirty minutes after, Leigh was sound asleep. Liz sat on my side and has her milk. She was amazed with the magical acts of Harry and the rest of the Dumbledore’s Army.  

When almost at the finale, Leigh woke up, stay put for a while until he wanted to be free. He was been in Papa’s arms since we were seated. Papa was too kind to stand up and went to the lobby as to not disturb the other moviegoers and me.  Liz was just contented in hanging her feet to the other seat…no one was there of course. She occasionally glanced to Papa and Leigh who were at our back standing. 

Lights were on, people stood up and begun to walk outside. End of our movie escapade. Liz was wearing a smile on her face.  

Ohh, I will not talk much about the movie, it’s a must see film.  

Cheers to my two kids for behaving so well and for being cooperative in fulfilling Mama’s dream, to watch Harry on wide screen. I have watched the four other series only on DVD . 

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First time…

Saturdays and Sundays are his day-offs, but last Saturday was Penang Governor’s Day, so holiday will take effect on Monday, Tuesday is company shutdown…all in all hubby has 4 days vacation. Yupie! We have much time together. 

 After girls’ day out, Saturday bday party, next is Sunday at the pool…we decided to treat the children to the pool since the sun was hiding in the clouds. Ironic but we hate to go to the pool when it’s hot! Afraid to get tan, lol.  

The pool is just within our sight, it is a 5 minutes walk from our condo. 

Leigh’s first time in the pool…he loves water. And as expected, he enjoyed so much. He did not want to come out from the water. He was not even afraid to jump into it.  

Some pics…

Not bad for a first timer, without the crying and the clinging…sure it was FUN!

So glad they did not catch colds. 

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